Perfection. What really is it? It’s something that many of us strive for, even when we know it’s simply a fantasy that does not exist. I have been trying to reach perfection for my whole life. I want my house, my hair, my makeup, my body, my car—the list is endless—all to be perfect. Yet, I know that is an unachievable goal. Perfection does not exist, and as many a philosopher have stated… the real beauty lies in the imperfections around us. So I ask the question, why… what makes us all aim for a goal that we know we cannot attain? It hurts us in more ways than it helps us and if we really took a minute to look around and understand that it’s not real, maybe we could be happier.
I am 23 years old, and I feel like I should have everything figured out and planned for my life. It seems as though everyone around me has that, and that they all lead the “perfect” life. Social media really plays a part in all of this, because it allows for everyone around us to post the corner of their lives that they want everyone to see. People don’t want to post photos about the shitty day that they’re having, and how they’re broke or depressed or just lost their job. What we see, and what we post ourselves even, are the shiny pieces of our lives; the new kitten, the brand new car, or the trip that we are about to embark on. It can definitely leave a sour taste in your mouth when you’re not feeling so hot yourself.
Social media is so great for many things, it gives people opportunities that they may not have had otherwise, it shines light on issues that need attention, and it brings people together as a community all over the world. However, it also has a tendency to engulf people and suck the life out of them if they’re not careful. I say this as always—speaking from experience. We see others showing how they have “achieved perfection” when in actuality, they are sitting behind their screen striving for the “perfection” they think that we have. It’s a vicious cycle.
If perfection exists, I believe it exists in the little things; the feeling of my cat nestled against my legs at night, a giant cup of your favourite coffee, or a walk with someone you love on a crisp autumn night. That is the kind of perfection I want to learn to strive for. Leave all the rest in the dust.