Finding Inspiration in Others

If you’re anything like me, you probably spend a lot of time gushing over others’ blog posts, Instagram layouts, YouTube video quality, outfits, home décor and whatever else there is to admire. I always find myself feeling negative about it because I don’t believe I could ever achieve a look quite like that, and it really bums me out. I always felt awkward and I didn’t want to try and recreate what the other person had done because I didn’t want to just ‘copy’ them.

I’m here to tell you that it’s a load of crap. Obviously don’t copy someone’s work down to a tee (of course if you copy anything make sure to give credit!!), but it’s completely okay to take inspiration from them! How do you think they got to where they are now? We are human, and we make the world go round by learning from each other and gaining inspiration from each other. Do you like the way someone edits their photos? Ask them how they do it, and try it out. Guaranteed even if you used the exact formula for editing, they wouldn’t look the same. Your physical photography will be different than theirs which in turn will make the photo different regardless of the editing. Not to mention, we all have our own unique taste so chances are you would change a couple of steps in the process anyways.

When I see a photo of an outfit that I like, I try to recreate it with the clothes I have or ones I can access easily (in my budget). I’m not going to go out and buy every single item of clothing that they are wearing and pose for a photo in the same way they did at the same location.

If you’re still trying to figure out what you like in fashion, or home décor or even in photography, there is nothing wrong with learning from those you admire. I have discovered how I like to edit my pictures after being inspired by Kalyn Nicholson’s Instagram. Her photos are dark but in such a pleasing and classic way. Before seeing her stuff, I was under the impression that pictures had to be bright and light and colourful. Now I understand that there is no “one way” for them to look. I am drawn to the darker styles and so now I edit them to be cooler toned and faded which I am loving! My style may change but for right now that is what I am digging!

I have discovered that I prefer cooler tones when it comes to home décor as well, after following Jillian Harris, Meghan Rienks and of course Kalyn Nicholson (yet again). Growing up my mom always geared towards browns, beiges, and greens to get the style she wanted. I followed suit for years and am now realizing that I prefer whites, grays and neutrals with a pop of colour here and there. I have yet to redecorate my home in the way that I want to due to budget but I am slowly making plans in my head; and you can bet when I do redecorate I will be taking inspiration from the people I mentioned above.

In the past I would see something I liked and instantly push away the thought because I wanted to have my own unique style… little did I know that that WAS my unique style. I like certain looks and colours more than others because that is just simply what I like. Now, I have the knowledge of what I like and can implement it into my life while making it my own.

What is something you have been inspired by lately? Or who? Leave a comment and let me know!

xo Sara

Dear 2016

Dear 2016,

You were a blur to me. I don’t have as strong emotions of hatred towards you as I did for 2015 but still you were not my favourite year. I climbed into a cocoon of depression and solitude and am only now trying to slowly creep out of the shadows I have kept myself in. You were the year that I discovered who my real family was, and wasn’t. I’ve learned that people aren’t always who you think they are, and that sometimes you have to cut the negatives ones from your life even when it leaves you feeling completely alone. I’ve had to learn how to navigate my life without the wisdom and advice from my mom, and that I will still struggle with every year from here on out.

When I read others’ posts about finding the positives from the year and focusing on them, I find myself stuck. I can’t think of much, simply because I have blocked out the majority of the year. As I said, you were a blur. A whirlwind of pain, of new emotions and feelings, of learning and trying to find myself. I guess I can say you were the year where I finally took control of my mental health by booking an appointment with a counsellor and I’m so grateful to have found one I love. You were the year I learned more about my physical health and am better able to understand the reasons for the pain I have been in, and hope to learn how to manage it in the next year.

You were the year I was brave enough to leave the job I had for 8 years of my life and step into somewhere new. It didn’t work out as I hoped, but it was a risk and I took it. You were the year I said out loud what I actually want to do with my life. Risky and uncertain as it may be, I was able to acknowledge it and say it out loud. Even if it was only to a few people. I used new social media accounts to have conversations with new people across the world, and make some new acquaintances, where I would normally have shied away. I started to analyze what I truly want from my life throughout this past year, and now can go into the next one with a better idea of how to conquer it.

2016 wasn’t all bad, it was just painful and therefore leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Pain doesn’t just go away, so I am fully aware that 2017 will hurt sometimes; but it’s very freeing to leave my cocoon in 2016. Every year has ups and downs and I am prepared for that, but I am embracing 2017 with the most open of arms and optimism that I have never had before. I am ready to take control of my own life, and chase after what I want.

Goodbye 2016, I am grateful for your lessons but I won’t be missing you. Hello 2017 I am ready for you now.

 

xo Sara