Feeling Overwhelmed

Hello, and welcome back to my little corner of the interweb!

Today I just want to chat about life. Hopefully someone can relate to this, and maybe I can help or perhaps you can help me!

I’ve been feeling incredibly overwhelmed this past week, more so than normal. I think it’s directly related to last weekend being insanely busy at work but I also think that my fears, thoughts, and aspirations have been teaming up on me. Basically I worked 19 hours between Saturday and Sunday and had no time for anything at all. When I finally got home I was exhausted and worn out. I’m currently a server at a restaurant, so my job is not only physical but emotional as well. If you’re a server, have been a server, or know someone who is then you probably understand what I’m talking about. It can take a lot out of you and last weekend it definitely did.

I felt like I didn’t have any time to myself to just relax and by the time I got home from work I had no energy to do the things I wanted to do. My back was killing me and my feet were really sore and it made it very hard to do anything except lay on the couch once I got home. However, by just crashing on the couch, I made myself more anxious and overwhelmed because I felt guilty about it. I was home from a long day at work, yet I was watching other people on social platforms live their lives the way I wanted to live mine; and I was doing nothing to move towards my goals.

I have started to realize over the last few months that I am the only one who can make a change in my life. I mean I have always known that nothing would change drastically unless I did it, but thinking about it and dreaming about it didn’t count as action. It’s a scary thing, to take your life into your own hands. I have always lived in other people’s shadows, scared to do something different, afraid of what people would think. Afraid to fail. I still am. In spite of that, I am doing it. I am trying. I am writing this post to attest to this. I keep believing that every one of my posts needs to have a fancy, well edited featured image and photos to keep everyone reading. It probably would help. Yet, I am letting the fear of not having those things all the time, get in the way of just posting. I can’t move forward if I don’t do it, right? I know things will come in time I just need more experience and time to learn.

I want everything I do and write, to be an accurate portrayal of who I am as a person. I want it to be raw, and real. 100 %.

So if you’re going through similar feelings of being overwhelmed by everything you want from life, I am here for you and would love to chat. I hope I was able to encourage someone to just jump in, regardless of what it is that you want, or your skill level in it. Just grab hold and go, if you think about it any longer you won’t do it. I have waited 5 years to start aiming for my goals. Don’t be like me. You’ve got this!

xo Sara

Perfection is not Happiness

Perfection. What really is it? It’s something that many of us strive for, even when we know it’s simply a fantasy that does not exist. I have been trying to reach perfection for my whole life. I want my house, my hair, my makeup, my body, my car—the list is endless—all to be perfect. Yet, I know that is an unachievable goal. Perfection does not exist, and as many a philosopher have stated… the real beauty lies in the imperfections around us. So I ask the question, why… what makes us all aim for a goal that we know we cannot attain? It hurts us in more ways than it helps us and if we really took a minute to look around and understand that it’s not real, maybe we could be happier.

I am 23 years old, and I feel like I should have everything figured out and planned for my life. It seems as though everyone around me has that, and that they all lead the “perfect” life. Social media really plays a part in all of this, because it allows for everyone around us to post the corner of their lives that they want everyone to see. People don’t want to post photos about the shitty day that they’re having, and how they’re broke or depressed or just lost their job. What we see, and what we post ourselves even, are the shiny pieces of our lives; the new kitten, the brand new car, or the trip that we are about to embark on. It can definitely leave a sour taste in your mouth when you’re not feeling so hot yourself.

Social media is so great for many things, it gives people opportunities that they may not have had otherwise, it shines light on issues that need attention, and it brings people together as a community all over the world. However, it also has a tendency to engulf people and suck the life out of them if they’re not careful. I say this as always—speaking from experience. We see others showing how they have “achieved perfection” when in actuality, they are sitting behind their screen striving for the “perfection” they think that we have. It’s a vicious cycle.

If perfection exists, I believe it exists in the little things; the feeling of my cat nestled against my legs at night, a giant cup of your favourite coffee, or a walk with someone you love on a crisp autumn night. That is the kind of perfection I want to learn to strive for. Leave all the rest in the dust.

5 Tips For Getting Out of Bed When You’re Depressed

As someone who has struggled with depression and anxiety for the majority of my life, I have firsthand experience with what it’s like trying to get yourself out of bed. Getting out of bed can be a struggle for everyone at some point, but when you’re in the midst of a bad depressive episode the only thing you want to do is sleep. That’s when having responsibilities can be a challenge because if you aren’t getting up, the consequences can be major. If you’re like me, you’ve probably grown tired of people telling you to just suck it up, and to get up and take on the day in spite of how you’re feeling. Sometimes that’s just not an option. Over the years I’ve come up with a short list of things I do that help me crawl out from under the covers, even on the worst days.

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  1. Set up the coffee pot the night before. If you’re someone like me who deeply depends on coffee to get the day started, then the most beneficial thing you can do for yourself is remove all of the work and thinking from the morning. This may sound simple, but if all you have to do is get up and push a button to get your steaming cup of caffeine, it’ll be a lot less intimidating. Even better if you have a coffee pot with a timer! If coffee isn’t your thing, fill the teapot with water before you go to bed and have the teabag already in the cup so all that’s left to do is boil water and pour. This can work for any of your morning routines in the kitchen; whether
    that’s prepping as much of your breakfast as possible, or getting the blender or toaster out for easy access! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been able to get up easier, knowing all I had to do was push a button. Just try it, and tell me if it works for you!
  2. Clean up the kitchen. If you don’t do anything else before going to sleep, tidy the kitchen! It will make your morning so much easier. There is nothing worse than waking up to a sink full of dishes and a counter top scattered with pots, pans and last night’s leftovers. Of course this is easier said than done, and it can be difficult when depressed to muster up the energy to do this; but I’m telling you that waking up to a tidy kitchen will allow your mind to feel less cluttered. Plus it’ll be far easier to get breakfast ready to go and find the coffee pot! This doesn’t mean you need to scrub the sink, mop the floors and clear out the fridge; all you need to do is clear the counter tops and be done with it!
  3. Decide on your clothes before bed. You’re probably noticing that most of these tips take place the night before, and that’s because it is much easier to do things when you’re already awake versus when you’re dreading waking up. So tip number 3 is to decide on your outfit and how you’re doing your hair (if applicable) before you hit the pillow. You don’t even need to physically get the outfit ready—although that’s an added bonus! Just simply thinking about it, checking the weather, where your day is going to take you, and maybe just making a note about it in your phone so you don’t forget. It also helps to shower at night so you have less to do, and it takes you less time getting ready because you don’t have to moisturize or blow dry your hair. This tip can save you if you’ve woken up late, or struggled to get up; and it also takes the stress out of it in the morning.
  4. Book appointments for early morning. This tip generally works on days when you aren’t working, or in school or wherever it is you normally have to be 5 days a week. On my days off, I find it the absolute hardest to get myself away from my pillow and comforter. I have no obligations beating down on me, and no mangers expecting me to be at work. I tend to sleep in a lot later, and then I feel like I’ve already wasted my whole day—so what is even the point of getting up? I would be lying if I said there were days where I just… didn’t. However, I have found that by making an appointment for around 9 or 10am on my days off, it really helps get me motivated for the rest of the day. I mean of course there aren’t always appointments you need to book like doctor, dentist or counsellor, but if you make a plan with a friend to get together for coffee it’ll work the same! By making it earlier in the day it forces you to get up and be somewhere and gives your body time to adjust to the day. Then when it’s over and you’re home, it is slightly less tempting to dive into bed and cocoon yourself.
  5. Baby steps. If you are finding the thought of getting up and getting ready for the day, making breakfast, and driving to work extremely intimidating; try taking it slow. Get from your bed to the couch, and once you’ve adjusted move your way to the kitchen and start the coffee maker. Go back to the couch for a minute if you need to, and then go brush your teeth. Once you get started you’ll start to feel better and will be able to finish your routine. Put on some music if it helps!

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Those are my 5 tips for getting out of bed when you’re depressed! I’m not going to be the one to tell you that exercise, meditation and essential oils are what will help, I mean I’m sure they would but they aren’t the only options! Not to mention, they can tend to feel kind of overwhelming. These tips are more like basic survival skills when in a time of need. I hope these helped you, and if they did I would love to hear about it! Depression is different for everyone, so if you have any other helpful tips please feel free to comment them down below!

Thanks for reading,

xo Sara

Why I Decorated Early for Christmas and Why You Should Too!

If you told me a year ago, that I would have my Christmas tree up in the middle of November I would have laughed in your face. I grew up in a house where we decorated on December 1st every year. No sooner and no later. It was a day we all anticipated and when it came, the attic seemed to have thrown up garlands, glitter and Santa Claus ornaments. It was an absolute blast!

Then I grew up, moved out and had my own place to decorate. I had a small tree with a few scattered glass figurines of snowmen. My parents moved and in the process had to stay in rental for a few months without access to their proper décor. My mom made due with what she could but it wasn’t the same.

After that year, things seemed to continuously get worse around the holidays. In 2013 my mom spent Christmas in the hospital for an unknown medical issue, and my dad passed away on Halloween of 2014. Two days later my mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She made it home for Christmas that year but was too sick to remember it. Come Christmas 2015, she was ecstatic and determined to make it the best one yet since she had missed so many years prior. Her tree was beautiful (as usual) and she was set on spreading the Christmas spirit even though the majority of my family, including myself, were being a bunch of grinches. We’d all been through a lot and the time of year seemed to hold a dark cloud over our family. We were scared of what was to come, and rightly so. My mom never made it to Christmas, as she passed away on December 16th, 2015.

Needless to say, last Christmas was one of the hardest yet. I have been dreading this season all year long. I wanted to put my foot down and refuse to decorate or partake in Christmas activities. A lot has changed since last Christmas, I have a long list of people who are no longer in my life and it has been a very challenging experience. However, try as I might, I can’t help but give in to the excitement and beauty that is the Christmas season. The decorations, the atmosphere, the chilly weather; it brings such joy even when it comes with bad memories.

So instead of being a scrooge this year, I took inspiration from one of my favourite Youtubers, Nikki Blackketter and put my decorations up on November 13th. Nikki was so open with her audience about not being in the best spirits following some life things, and to make herself feel better she put her Christmas tree up insanely early. I thought that was so awesome!

If you’re feeling down, or in a funk, or even if you just love Christmas decorations and see no reason to wait; I highly recommend putting them up ASAP! The warm glow of the lights on the tree in a dimly lit living room, feel like a cozy hug. Especially on a cold day after work. My favourite thing to do now is to make a cup of tea or coffee, grab a book or turn on my current favourite tv show and just relax.

I’m the type of person who mainly prefers bright rooms, with natural light and fresh air but due to the fact that I live in a dark basement suite where my lightbulbs burn out once a week, it is such a refreshing feeling to actually enjoy the darkness. I like my house better in the dark at Christmas time, because that means the lights really stand out. I also love that it makes it feel like the season has begun early, and therefore I am ready to go to all of the Christmas markets near me, and light mazes and tree-lighting festivals, I can’t wait!

As a kid, I always found the Christmas season to go by WAY too fast, but if you start early you can really stretch it out and enjoy it for so much longer. I remember getting that sad feeling on Christmas morning, knowing that the hype was over and by tomorrow it would all be over, when I didn’t even feel like I got to enjoy it. So now, as an adult, I have decided to make it last longer but starting early. I mean why not? The malls all start the day after Halloween, and why should we let them have all the fun?!

I hope this inspired some of you to put up your decorations early, and if it did I would love to know!

xo Sara

Product Review: Vichy

Hello, Hello!

I have a semi-product review for you today! A few months back, when I first started this blog I posted about my new Vichy products when I had just purchased them. I used up all of what I had a couple of months ago, and I have been using other random moisturizers and cleansers in place of them. However, last week I went to the store and repurchased the moisturizer. It came in a box set with a couple of other goodies as well, which I will talk about. I also bought a different cleanser than I had before due to recommendation from a friend.  So here is what I think:
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I have the Aqualia Thermal moisturizer in “light” and it is the item I repurchased. I love it! It feels soft and smooth on my skin and it smells heavenly! I am so obsessed with the scent. I couldn’t wait to repurchase this!

The two things that came with the box set are the Aqualia Thermal Boosting Essence Water and the Aqualia Thermal Night Spa. The essence water is supposed to act as a toner and make your other products go on smoother and benefit you in the best way that they can. I am really not an expert when it comes to skin care stuff, as I only know what works best for me. I haven’t noticed too much of a difference using the essence water so far but it has only been about a week. I do however love the way it feels when I put it on. It feels very refreshing. It also smells amazing! One thing Vichy knows how to do, hands down, is make their products smell luxurious!
As for the Night Spa or Night Mask, this has suited me just fine. I like having two different moisturizers from day to night, and I’ll tell you again how good this smells!! I have no complaints about this product at all. My skin feels soft in the morning and I like that just fine.

The last product I bought was the Purete Thermale 3 in 1 cleanser. I recommended the Aqualia Thermal daytime moisturizer to my friend a few months ago and when she purchased it, it came with this specific cleanser. So, when I went to buy my old loves, I was torn between trying this one or my old favourite (click here). My friend absolutely loves the 3 in 1 cleanser. She says it takes off all of her makeup even waterproof stuff, and she also doesn’t mind that it’s a milky cleanser and so it doesn’t foam. I wasn’t too concerned about the foaming, but I loved the thought of my makeup coming right off. So I went ahead and grabbed the 3 in 1. DSCN0678Unfortunately for me, it is not a love. The 3 in 1, as always I’ll say it again — smells amazing– but I don’t find it takes my makeup off very well at all. I am left with raccoon eyes that I just can’t get rid of. I will admit, after trying the milk cleanser, I do seem to prefer the foaming more simply because it makes me feel like I am really getting all of the dirt out. I can also use it with my exfoliating brush and I don’t feel like I could do that with the 3 in 1. I will hang on to it, and most likely finish the bottle since I can’t let myself waste a product, and it is good for days when I am not wearing makeup and just want a soft moisturizing rinse. However, I will more than likely be heading back to the store to get the foaming one I had before since that one was more to my liking.

Have you tried any of these products before? What are your favourite skin care products? Feel free to let me know in the comments!

Thanks for reading,

xo Sara

Why I Love Mugs

There is something about a steaming cup of coffee in a giant mug between both of my hands that is so satisfying to me. I love mugs. I absolutely love them. Growing up, my mom always had to have a matching set of dishes. The dishes all had to match each other and any mismatched items had to be removed from the cupboard. Even now, I know better than to get her a cute mug or glass for a gift because I know the fact that it won’t match the rest would bother her. As for me, I love having mismatched mugs. I feel like every mug I have tells a story; that may sound weird but hear me out. I have a small collection going right now, and I can’t wait for it to get bigger.

I have one mug that was a gift from my boyfriend’s grandma that has a Paris theme because she knows me well enough to remember that I am obsessed with Paris and the Eiffel Tower (unfortunately I have yet to see it in real life—one day!). I think it’s so sweet and thoughtful of her to know that about me and think of me when she saw it. I have 2 mugs from the recent trip my boyfriend and I took to Mexico back and June, and every time I use one I am reminded of the adventure we had there. Plus it helps that they are super cute too!! One of my favourite mugs at the moment is a giant mug from one of my friends that pictures two of my obsessions wrapped up into one place: cats and coffee. Each side has a photo of a cat with either the caption, “catfeinated” or “decatf”. It’s purrrfect! [See what I did there ;)]. I love that it is large because it fits lots and lots of coffee, but even more so I love that it was such a random, thoughtful gift. She saw it and thought of me and just grabbed it. There’s nothing better than knowing you’re being thought about when you’re not around :).DSCN0615 (2)

I have more in my collection but those are just some of the ones that stand out. One day when I have my own house and more space to put stuff, I really want to make a “mug wall” where I can put hooks up to hang all of my mugs so I can show them off.

Maybe it’s a little strange to have such a weird obsession with mugs, but they all have a story and I think that’s what makes them special. Plus, there are some seriously cute mugs out and about these days… I mean have you ever been to Chapters?! Finally, the best thing about mugs is the fact that they hold COFFEE!! …but I’ll save that obsession for another post :P.

Thank you for reading,

xo Sara

Music Moments

Hello Hello!

In honour of my VERY FIRST voice lesson, today I wanted to take a quick minute to post about my favourite songs at the current moment! I would love to make this a trend on my blog, since music is something I am incredibly passionate about and I have different favourites all the time. I like all types of music from pop, to country, to indie, to rap, the list goes on! If it makes my ears happy, or my heart happy — then it’s a keeper!

Here are my 5 favourite songs of right now:

First: Say Love by Jojo
Jojo hasn’t made music in many years, but now that she’s back in the game… she’s better than ever! Her voice is so amazing, I only dream of hitting notes the way she can. Needless to say, I am in love with this song. Actually all three of her new songs (she also has Save My Soul and When Love Hurts out as well!) but Say Love is simply my favourite.

Second: The Hills by The Weeknd – Eminem Remix
Eminem is one of my all time favourite artists, everything he touches is just amazing. I also love The Weeknd. So when I found out Eminem remixed one of my favourite songs from The Weeknd, I HAD to hear it! Now it’s been on repeat for three days, because it is pure GOLD! Well done, well done.

Third: Coffee by Miguel–covered by Madilyn Bailey
I have been watching Madilyn Bailey on youtube for a few years now, and she is really talented. However, when I heard her cover of this song and watched the video I fell in love instantly. I hadn’t even heard the original song at first, but after hearing it I can honestly say for me, Maddy’s version is the winner.

Fourth: Breathe in, Breathe Out by Hilary Duff
I know everyone has their opinions on the once Disney pop star, but I can’t help but love her. This song has so much emotion to it and I can’t stop playing it. I actually am a big fan of her recent album, but the titled track takes the cake.

Fifth: Burning House by Cam
This song is everything. I am majorly obsessed and I am actually going to be singing it a lot in my voice lessons because the pitch is quite perfect for my voice. Which makes me VERY excited! When I first heard it, I thought something was missing, but the more I listened to it I fell deeper and deeper in love and now I can’t get it out of my head. It’s such a sad song, but it’s just so dang good. Feeling ALL the feels guys!

I hope you liked my Momentary Music Faves! Please let me know if you’re a fan of any of these songs, or if there are any you think I should hear!

Thanks for reading,

xo Sara

Pumpkin Patch Fun!

I spent the day at the pumpkin patch with a friend of mine the other week, and it was such a blast! I haven’t been to a pumpkin patch since elementary school and I thought I’d be too old for it now; but if we’re being honest here… do we ever get TOO old for big pumpkins and farm animals?! I think not!DSCN0485 (2)

Of course we had to get some cutesy photos! What would the day be without it? Fall has never been my favourite season, I’ve always been more of a Summer girl—but how can I resist the colours?! It really brightens up any photo which really makes me swoon.
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I am not much of a pumpkin carver myself, but I want to try using glue and glitter to make them super cute! I’ve seen it done by people all over the internet and I think it looks really fun! I especially want to try it on the mini pumpkins, to make a really cute Fall centre piece! The little ones are just so ADORABLE!
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Once we finished with our pumpkin patch adventure, we went to a park to steal some leaves! I know you must be wondering.. why?
Well my friend has an active instagram account for her pups, and she needed some Autumnal photos for her followers viewing pleasure. However, with the pups running about in her backyard, the grass has turned to sand and the trees aren’t leafy. SO because I am such a fantastic friend, I brought her to a park with an overabundance of leaves, and we filled up bags to our hearts content and brought them over to her house for a doggie photo shoot! What could be more fun?! I couldn’t resist snapping a photo of the beautiful trees before we left!
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IMG_3525 (2)My boyfriend thinks these photos are absolutely ridiculous and very staged! I will tell you one thing, the pumpkins are staged… the dogs — completely candid! Love these pooches though!

Thanks for reading!!

xo Sara

Why NOT me?

I was reading briefly through an old journal of mine, and I came across an entry about wanting to pursue singing. I have always been hesitant because I am my own worst critic. Even writing about it makes me uneasy. Yet, I have loved it since birth. When I was 3 years old I used to sit in the back seat of the car and belt out all the words to every Shania Twain song. To me, it’s really crazy because this journal entry is from June 2012. Imagine what I could have accomplished if I began pursuing my dreams back then. So today, I attempted to register for vocal lessons. I haven’t set an official date yet but it’s still a GIANT leap forward for me. It’s terrifying, but it feels good.

I have been seeing this quote over and over lately, “If you wait until you’re ready, you will be waiting the rest of your life” and it really resonated with me because it is totally true! I mean if you think about how often you hear successful people say that if they knew what they would accomplish, they would have started sooner. Who knows what will become of anything, but it’s at least worth the shot right?DSCN0440 (2)

I also happen to adore inspirational quotes. If you follow me on Pinterest you would see the amount I have collected over the years. I am a tad obsessed. They really have a way of capturing an emotion you’re feeling in just a few short words and it just hits you right in the face!

I have felt similar feelings of uncertainty about writing and putting myself out there as well, but I have been thinking about it for years. I always assume no one would want to hear or read or see anything from me; there is so much else out there. People who have put more time in or start out stronger or who are just more appealing. I know I am not the only person who deals with these kinds of feelings, so I have decided to change my state of mind from “Why me?” to “Why NOT me?” and you should too!

I really want to share the process of me learning to motivate myself and redirecting the voices in my head, in hopes of inspiring others as well. Self-doubt is a burden and it’s challenging to work against but I know we are all capable of overcoming it. So here is to a clean slate!

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Thanks for reading,

xo Sara

Weekend Getaway!

This past Wednesday (September 30) my boyfriend and I celebrated 5 years together! We decided to take a trip up to Kelowna, BC for the weekend and get away to spend time together. We have taken quite a few trips over the last couple of years, but this one was one of the absolute best! It was very spontaneous as we only planned it out less than a week before, and it was very much relaxed which made it even better. The main reason we went up there was to visit Kangaroo Creek Farm, which is literally a kangaroo petting zoo. I saw it online and I also knew a few people who had been, and the second I heard about it I knew I had to go! I mean… petting kangaroos… what can be any better than that?!

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Royal Private Residence Club

So we booked a hotel and packed our bags and ventured out for our 4 hour drive up to Kelowna. I love road trips! There is something so freeing about listening to loud music with the windows down with someone you love. After a few pit stops for coffee, gas and food we made it to our destination, or so I thought. It turns out, the basic, affordable hotel that I had thought we were staying at was not where we were headed! Ryan actually surprised me by booking a really fancy hotel for us for the night called Royal Private Residence Club and it was freaking amazing! I absolutely love surprises, but it takes a lot to actually surprise me because I am a really good guesser! Almost every birthday or Christmas gift Ryan has gotten me I have guessed before he has even bought it! However, he got me this time! I was so surprised and it was so sweet of him to do, it really made the whole weekend!

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The view from our room
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View from the rooftop pool

We were on the top floor and our room had a huge patio and a breathtaking view of the water. We went out there almost every hour just to look at the sky as it changed colours and take it all in. There was also a roof top pool and hot tub that we got to enjoy which was so relaxing and beautiful! The hotel even put out champagne and chocolate covered strawberries for us to celebrate our 5 years!
We spent the afternoon wandering the streets of Kelowna and appreciating the sights, because man were they something special!IMG_3189 It really is a gorgeous place! We had coffee, we talked and we enjoyed each other’s company, then we had dinner and settled in for the night with a Netflix movie. (We watched the Imitation Game and it was great!). The day really could not have been more perfect.

Sunday was the main event we’d been waiting for… KANGAROOS! The kangaroo farm was everything I could have hoped for and then some. Ryan got some real cuddles with one of the roo’s and he also happened to be the SOFTEST one there. IMG_3289 It was pretty wonderful. You’re only supposed to pet them on the back, so the fact that he literally climbed into Ryan’s lap and nuzzled into him made it even cuter! I also waited my turn in line to hold a baby kangaroo and it was the best thing ever. Seriously, everyone needs to hold a baby kangaroo.

After all of the stress and emotions I have been feeling over the past month, this trip was exactly what I needed to refresh. I can’t say enough good things about it and I just wish I could do it all over again! Needless to say, being back at work just isn’t doing it for me!

Thanks for letting me share this with you!

xo Sara

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